I am not sure why am I writing this when there is already a list of stories pending to be told? Do I need to think, analyze before I decide on what to write which to be honest has been a daily ritual in my life or could I take a deep breath, listen to my heart and write out. Well at this point I guess you all could see which track I am on but still it takes a lot of toll. I don't know if at some point in your lives you all feel the same? The constant decision making dilemmas are like war front situations which have been troubling me for decades. To top it all, things become worse, when you try and ignore them or take it as a fate and do nothing about it.
For years living has been a journey of constant fears and threats: fear of losing out your loved ones and a threat to my ego (how can I go wrong). Be it relationship with my parents or my partner or be it with people around, things remained same throughout until this moment when I am sharing the story with you all.
Five days back my partner and I had a heated conflict (not literally but metaphorically) and were expressing out to each other our discomfort, issues and unfulfilled needs. While we were in between all this I realized how beautifully my partner was responding not reacting to the entire situation. The sheer beauty in which she was anchoring the entire situation made me ask myself a question, which I see has shifted my approach towards self, my relationships and situations.
The trillion dollar question is "What is my bottom line?"
The moment I asked the question to myself and then to her, suddenly I saw a different energy and perspective in both of us towards the entire conversation and things in turn became opposite which at least at that point I was not expecting.
The reason why I feel like sharing it is because of the fact that each day I see energies being sucked out because of conflicts at different levels and spaces. Organizational conflicts, relationship conflicts, personal conflicts, national conflicts, international conflicts and what not. I wonder if asking this simple question can turn the tables for many. To me it looks like an idea worth trying. For me personally it has done wonders and when I was introspecting it in context of my few past magical interactions I somehow found this very much alive in me.
How do you decide that this is my bottom line? To answer this, my experience says that you don't decide it. It comes to you naturally and you can feel the heart beat actually talking to you. It may sound crazy but it did happen with me and that moment in itself is so pure. To a large extent I also see that our bottom line comes from the values that drive us or we wish to see in others.
What if, we start to look at our conflicts in this way? How about organizations initiate bottom line conversations for self and others? Could we reconcile our political and social disconnects and disagreements?
To me "What is my bottom line" is worth considering once before we negate it completely or partially.
